My wonderful father passed away last night. He was a GREAT man!
It’s been soooooo long since I’ve been there!! Thank you, Ancestors, for bringing this beautiful African in my life. 19 years of sex with kindness, attentiveness, laughter (especially when the radio is on), trying new things, listening to each other, fuckin, baby-making and love.
Waiting to Exhale | 1995
we’ve all been there
Dear lord the stroke game is so weak….
All the roles I’ve ever gotten, they’ve been wonderful, but so many have been down-trotting. [Whoopi Goldberg begins to lowly snicker in agreement because she’s had similar roles]. They’ve been women who are pretty much asexual. They haven’t been realized. They have careers but no names. So all of a sudden I was given the opportunity to play someone sexy, mysterious, someone complicated. It was a chance to use my craft, a chance to transform, a chance to surprise myself and the public. And I took it.
I know so many actors in their careers—in the 70s, 80s—fantastic actresses of color who have never been given the opportunity. I’m just so thankful it came to me at this point in my life. [Rosie Perez chimes in that Viola is intelligent, fierce, and sexy in the show].
Listen, I see myself as those things, but I have very rarely seen people who are a physical manifestation of me on the screen. When I was younger it was people like Cicely Tyson and Diahann Carroll who made me believe that I could do it. Then somewhere along the line they disappeared…
I’m glad that Shonda Rhimes saw me. She SAW me. She took me in when I interviewed with Oprah and I said, ‘No one’s ever going to cast me in a sexy role’ and Shonda looked at that interview and said, ‘Well, why not?’ I’m glad she said, ‘Why not?’ I think that’s what makes her a visionary, that’s why she’s special, that’s what makes her iconic.
[Whoopi Goldberg goes back the part of ‘she saw me’ and uses it as a segue to bring up the NY Times article that called Shonda Rhimes ‘an angry black woman’ and referred to Viola Davis as being ‘less classically beautiful than typical tv stars.’]
Beauty is subjective. I’ve heard that statement my entire life that being a dark skinned, black woman. [Whoopi Goldberg mmm hmms in agreement.] You hear it from the time you come out of the womb. Classically not beautiful is a fancy term of saying ugly, and denouncing you, erasing you. Now it worked when I was younger. It no longer works for me now.
It’s like Ruby Dee said, she wanted that hard to get beauty that comes from within—strength courage, and dignity. So many black women came out after that article and used the hashtag to show their face and step into who they are because they’re teaching a culture how to treat them and how to see them.
Really at the end of the day, you define you.”
Viola Davis on The View
Yumii Thecato, I am so proud of you!!
Went out with Kristina. got Chicago Heights and 35th.
High School Reading List
Back in May, the #weneeddiversebooks campaign lit a fire to fulfill the desperate need for diverse books in children’s literature. Behind the Book has always championed efforts to find diverse authors and protagonists that will appeal to students since we serve communities of color. For your enjoyment (and enrichment), we’ve created an epic list of diverse books to reflect the diversity in our city; here’s our list for high school students.
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Parents who kick out their children for being gay are child abusers and should be regarded to as such
I had THE best day!! I woke up, made my husband a nice breakfast and chilled with him, snugglin. We both fell asleep with full bellies. When we woke up, we made love. Oh, it was sooooooo good. That man. At around 11 am, I shouted to my 14 and 18 yo that we’re rollin out by 11:30. Everyone showered and got dressed, then we got on the freeway on our way to San Jose!! Curtis Mayfield sang to us to “Move on Up”, as I passed slow ass trucks on our two hour drive.
Year of the Dragon rocked the fuck out of their set. I got to talk with Walt before they went on. He said he wasn’t feeling too good. Later, Roderick found me and thanked me for coming out. I introduced him to my kids and asked him if he were still in pain from his recent surgery. His arm looked swollen.
Then Fishbone played an outside stage!!! Mar and Veta had NO idea!!! We ALL rocked the fuck out, dancing, screaming and jumping. Angelo was all in the crowd, of course, and Mar was trying to grab the mic to sing. And of course Mar knew the words to the songs, I’ve been playing them since he was a little one!! I jumped in the little mosh pit, for about two minutes! Veta got scared and pulled me out. Ha! There was this beautiful Black man I had met earlier and he found me in the front. Veta pulled me away from him, too, when we were dancing VERY close! Ha! I guess she felt that HER mom shouldn’t have her hips and butt moving and swaying on some man’s front side, unless it was her daddy!!!! Yeah, I hugged that man quite a bit. Hee hee hee.
Seeing Walt and Roderick and Rocky and Norwood (and wishing him a Happy Birthday) and Angelo, felt like seeing family. Talking to them off and on stage felt like hanging with brothas I grew up with. But then again, 25 years IS growing up with them! Singing “Ma and Pa” and “Cholly” took me right back to my undergrad years. Seeing my son singing along to “Everyday Sunshine”, I almost lost it. The tears hit me. I wish everyday the sun would sun, just like today. I feel so blessed and loved and happy!!
Fishbone Soldier for life!
"Black man, you are on your own" - Steve Biko (18 December 1946 – 12 September 1977).
September 12th, marks the day South Africa anti-Apartheid activist and Black Consciousness leader Steve Biko was killed in police custody in Pretoria. Biko had been arrested a month earlier in Port Elizabeth where he had been detained and tortured, resulting in him falling into a coma.
Nearly dead and suffering a serious and untreated head injury, Biko was transported to Pretoria by car and died shortly after his arrival at the prison there. Police at the time would claim and broadcast to the world that Biko died due to a hunger strike but an autopsy and photographs taken of Biko postmortem, exposed with the help of journalists Donald Woods and Helen Zille, revealed that he had died as a result of the injuries he sustained whilst in police custody.
Today, nearly 40 years after his death at age 30, we remember a man that fought for an end to the brutality he and countless others suffered and still do today. The fight is far from over.
A luta continua!
MisSpelled is about five girls who mysteriously acquire magical abilities and how they learn to deal with them and one another. It’s funny and comedic and tons of fun for you and your friends. MisSpelled features an all women of color cast as well as a variety of body sizes.
I was hoping you’d spread this with the community. So often we clamor for more diversity in media and then projects like this (without the financial support of a network) fall by the wayside. Please help us keep MisSpelled alive!
We also had the girls do a video on “Casting in Hollywood” which I think is a good piece for writers to keep in mind when writing for their shows.
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Please spread the word! MisSpelled needs you!
Cuba to send doctors to Ebola areas
Cuba is sending 165 health workers to help tackle the Ebola outbreak in West Africa, officials say.
Doctors, nurses and infection control specialists will travel to Sierra Leone in October and stay for six months.
The announcement comes as the World Health Organization says new cases in West Africa are increasing faster than the capacity to manage them.
More than 2,400 people have died from the virus in recent months and some 4,700 people have been infected.
The death toll remains highest in Liberia, Sierra Leone and Guinea.
The U.S should be ashamed of itself for not offering the Zmapp drug to West African nations. Zmapp has been shown to cure Ebola right away. Fuck the USA as always.
I WNDHAHSHAHS RND
[image description: portrait of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie with a text quote overlaying it]
"Being gay is not something white people brought to us. Africans have been gay for centuries." -Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
While there is a lot of appropriate rage about Ferguson right now, the killing of John Crawford, III is getting less attention than it deserves. I put Shaun King’s tweets and history lesson on the matter in chronological order for easier consumption.
You really should be following Shaun King on Twitter.